I'd lie

Yep, I'm talking about talking about Taylor Swift's famous song.Have you really mm..let's say 'felt' the lyrics?It's a perfect 'falling for your friend' story!I find it 'funny' how far self-denial can get sometimes like the chorus goes:

And I could tell you
His favorite color's green
He loves to argue
Born on the seventeenth
His sister's beautiful
He has his father's eyes
And if you ask me if I love him
I'd lie

I mean, cummon! How could you possibly know so much in so much detail about someone and deny you love them?? I think it's all about fear.People are scared to use the "L" word.I bet if you asked her 'if she liked him' she'd agree.There simply is a big difference when you use the "L" word, it comes with some kind of responsibility, not only to the one saying it but to the one it's being said to.Coming to think of it-I've never said 143 to anyone, only replying with "likewise" or "you too". I've been wondering why? My analysis so far says it's because LOVE is supposed to be something developed, not simply felt.I find it weird that people use the "I LOVE YOU" line to get into relationships, wouldn't it be wiser and more sincere if they said something like "I REALLY LIKE YOU AND WOULD LIKE TO KNOW YOU BETTER"? That way, you're not making any promises, you're not giving anyone any unrealistic expectations and you're not 'forcing' them to say 'yes' (it's hard to say 'no' when someone tells you they love you, easiest way out is to simply agree...) and you are being very honest.If things don't work out, they can't say "but you said you loved me....."(yeah you did but you didn't even know her/him that much yet!)-how would you answer that???

Sometimes though,like in the 'I'd lie' song-you know a person 'inside out' so yes, you could say you loved them but why the denial??Again Fear.Maybe fear of rejection?that the feeling isn't mutual?'destroying' your 'friendship'?loosing that person for good?Or not being able to deal with the consequences?..It's a lot easier and safer to keep everything to yourself than to risk the loosing the 'bond' you have.What do you think?Are those reasons good enough? I rest my case @_@

Kids

It's simply amazing how any child especially the 'terrible twos' or at least below five, can put a smile on probably anyone's face. Have you seen how adults, no matter how 'serious' they may seem would do almost everything to get a kid smile? You put on your best funny face, clap your hands, dance around-anything for that simple smile! It's as if children have some spell that could melt the hardest of hearts.Whoever gets them to accept their open arms or better yet gets that hard earned grin, walks away victorious. Like you've won some lotto or something!How is it that the presence of even one child brings out the best in everyone.Why??

Maybe it's because we're captivated by their innocence, contentment, their genuine,selfless ways. How they can cry this second and have a huge smile the next, how a simple balloon or candy is all they need to take the pain away, how they don't care about getting dirty and care-freely entertain themselves, the trust they have that you'll catch them when you throw them in the air,the way they don't have a hint of pride in them and can ask help for anything, the confidence they have in mommy/daddy to make everything better, how they forget any fights and reconcile in a heartbeat, the pleasure they get from the simplest of things.

I think we somehow wish we were more like that.That we could always be happy and satisfied, without worries, that we didn't take ourselves too seriously, that we trusted people more, that we were humble enough to admit our mistakes, that we never had to end any friendships-that we could see the world in their eyes.^_^

No wonder Jesus said we should be more like them to 'enter God's Kingdom'-children are the perfect examples of how we're supposed to be; how to live and enjoy life.Me having second thoughts on having kids???lol

Red Alert

There are lots of lists of 'signs you're in love' around.Since I've got a blog, I thought why not make my own version. Signals that would obviously apply to myself and probably everyone else.So here it goes:

* You save all (most) of their messages (text, ym etc)-save them for a rainy day when you'll need a smile ^_^

* You find yourself smiling for no visible reason -actually you're thinking 'happy thoughts' ie him/her.

* People say you're 'blooming'(girls only) even if you didn't do anything special to yourself

* You begin to like slow (corny) songs despite being a rock, upbeat fan

* A lot of things, places, lines suddenly make you think of him/her

* You change from being very forgetful to having a good memory (remember a lot of tiny details about him/her)

* He/she is on your mind 24/7 (not that you're really thinking of them but they're somewhere on the back of your mind)

* You're interested in his/her opinion

* You can't wait to talk to him/her like they somehow 'complete your day'

* You were smiling all the while reading this coz there's someone on your mind ;)

Well??Did you hear the sirens go "red alert, red alert-you're in love"? CONGRATULATIONS!!xox

Practice makes perfect?

Ok, I must admit I started running out of ideas for this blog so as usual, i turned to my bro for some suggestions.This is his idea.(just the title;). I used to get this a lot in High school and College:

Them:"Why don't you have a bf?"
Me:"I'm not ready yet"
Them:"But your already ___!Anyway, it's just practice"
Me:"I believe bf/gf relationships are serious-for marriage"
Them:"what??No way..how will you know who's best for you if you don't try different personalities?" ie:practice makes perfect

The conversation always ended up in a debate of 'me against the world'.What's the problem here??Many think the more you enter (& exit) relationships, the more you learn about yourself and about what you want/need in a partner.Is that good practice for a long lasting relationship?If anything, they're preparing for divorce; viewing relationships as 'casual', 'no big deal','short-term'-PRACTICE!

Another loop hole in this 'practice makes perfect' reasoning is the what I've come to call "OUCH" factor.

Scenario: Boy is very serious about this girl, thinks she might be 'the one', does everything to get her interested (lots of effort) and finally-she agrees!!Girl however doesn't really like/love this guy but since he's persistent,she thinks "why not? it'd be good practice after all".End?Boy gets a big, big heartbreak that might have an effect on his very life.Girl walks away-no big deal
*The End*

How about if you were the boy?Just being practiced on?O-U-C-H.
Lesson:Practice doesn't make perfect!You can learn from your experiences, the difference being you don't do it intentionally(entering a relationship,knowing you'll 'break-up' for sure), you do your best but things simply don't work out so you walk away with experience not practice.Relationships are definitely not a time for trial and error. But how are you supposed to know "who's best for you if you don't try different personalities"? It's called maturity.As you get to know yourself, you'll realize what you need and who would be compatible.Yes, age does matter(not age-difference between partners but the age you enter a relationship). So if you want to prevent heartbreak, don't 'practice', simply wait 'til you're mature enough then learn from your experiences.^_^

'To do' list

In this chaotic world, having your life planned out really helps.I'm talking about the 'real life' here-planning in this world is futile:D Anyway, here is a list of some things I'd love to do, why I might not be able to them in this world but why i'll definitely check them one-by-one someday.

>Travel around the world
now:I'm not a billionaire-even if i was, there so many better things to do.
then:no more money!hmm...maybe i'll ride a dolphine?:)


>Settle down in New Zealand or Switzerland
now:see num 1
then:it won't matter where-the whole world will be as beautiful as those countries!

>Have kids
now:mmm...very hard times to have kids..but,you never know
then:no more hard times,not to mention birth pains!

>Put up a nursery or kindergarten
now:Not qualified
then:qualified??how about perfect? :)

>Experience snow
now:Phils is a tropical country!
then:travel around the world remember?

>Design and build my own house
now: num 1 again, besides who wants a beautiful house in this world right??
then:beautiful house+beautiful world=makes sense;)

>Learn how to drive a car/motor
now:what will I drive?no car/motor!lol
then:hmm...I'll invent my own model (Eco-friendly)lol

>Ride a really high roller coaster!
now:num 1 again+fear factor
then:bye2x fear :P

>Be the perfect wife.mother
now:nobody's perfect
then:100/100

>See the 'blue planet' from outer space-must be breathtaking
now:i'm not an astronaut
then:astronaut/scientist/mathematician/.../.../.../..../

>Be a linguist!
now:no time and no brains ;)
then:endless time and i'm a genius remember?:D

I could go on and on but I've got work to do;) So? Have you guys made your 'to-do' list yet?You better or you might end up 'lost', too many things to do!Besides, it's not going to be a long wait-you'll get to check that long list really soon ^_^

Compatibility

I had another 'Talk Show' with one of my bros over the weekend, I made him explain the black-listed thing and ended up talking about compatibility.(Personality wise-spiritual factors etc are a given off course)What exactly does it involve? If you enjoy the same music and get along perfectly, would you say you're compatible? Or if you had similar family backgrounds?Or perhaps look good together physically? I don't think so,I think it means much more and depends on each ones personality. No matter how much you like/love someone, doesn't make you compatible. In fact simply basing everything on love is very foolish.You sometimes have to accept the fact that you wouldn't make a good couple!No matter how much you think you love the person, if you look real close (take off the blindfold of love) -you'll see just how incompatible you really are."love covers a multitude of sins"? These are not sins-this is something you can't change-the personality you'll live with for the rest of your life!

According to my bro, there is a certain kind of personality that you're compatible with.Not totally though, just some traits that become a 'must-have' to fit your personality and for you to be compatible.In my case, he says a 'behaved', quiet, smart guy.(He forgot humor,you just have to know how to make me laugh!)"Why?" I asked. Well, because I'm loud, not so high IQ (he actually called be dumb!hmph), outgoing and mm...kinda naughty?.Someone to somewhat neutralize/tame me I guess..Coming to think of it, I can't imagine myself having to 'compete' with a guy verbally!! I mean, I'm the girl right?So I'm supposed to be talkative.lol. Or maybe sharing my cosmetics with him!("can you pass me the powder hun?"-oh no!) Or someone whose more emotional than me?? (I'm really not that emotional)

"Opposites attract"? I think they do, just not in every single thing and to the extreme degree.There simply has to be some 'meeting in between'.Then there's the gender role issue. The guy always should be the head, so the girl should be able to respect him.The girl should always be somehow dependent on him (especially emotionally), be able to tell him things without fearing he'd 'break-down'.The girl is always the "damsel in distress:; guy always the "knight in shining armor".Those roles just can't be reversed.(Guy the 'lad in distress'; girl the "princess in shining armor"??lol just sooo wrong!!)

Conclusion?Make sure he can be your "knight in shining armor" before you fall? And off course, 'bros know best' so when in doubt, make an appointment with the 'love doctors'.lol ^_^

Rain

I love rain!Not just because we need it for survival but the simplicity of it is just wonderful.Have you ever tried looking at the rain (trying to see where it comes from)?It's indescribable! The drops appear to fall from above but you can't really see where.The way the drops look under a street light, the ripples they make when they hit a puddle of water, the way drops look like crystals on plants' leaves and the tingling feeling when they touch your skin.Everything just makes my day. People usually relate rain to sadness or gloominess but I dunno- I just go 'crazy'(in a good way) when it rains.It's the easiest way to get me to smile and instantly transform my mood (into ecstatic) .If there are 'lunatics', I might be a 'rainatic'?(ok, I'm making up words again..:)Walking in the rain has always been my 'thing', maybe because I used to play in the rain with my dad when I was a kid-I still do-sometimes.I wish I could walk in the rain all the time, without an umbrella!I used to until I got all kinds of lung diseases, then I was forced to use an umbrella:( So much for my reckless enjoyment.Then there's the let's say 'romantic' part of walking in the rain don't you think?I do..memories....*_* .And not to mention that scent you get after a good fall of rain-smells like a mix of heaven (rain) and earth (soil). Rain is unstoppable, like JH's promises, refreshing like the meetings-totally amazing like all of His creation. So when it rains, don't wonder if you catch me trying to get myself wet somehow (even with an umbrella)or staring up into the sky-it's simply one of my many 'happy drugs' ^_^