Pioneers and Love

I received this funny text message about the difficulties that RP's face. It all started with the usual-shoes, bags, work, finances etc but guess what the first one was??LOVE!! With the question:"haven't you noticed?". It definitely seems to be so, but why?Why are the people who try to keep their focus on spiritual things the ones usually 'out of love'??

Maybe it's because they're too busy with their lives. Busy balancing secular work with preaching. Busy striving to get their 70hours that LOVE is the last thing on their minds. Maybe that's the impression people get, something like "She/He has no time for me, so why try?" So are they 'missing' a lot of opportunities with this 'busyness' of theirs?? Definitely not! There is certainly no comparison to the happiness they gain compared to any 'love life' they could have had.

Maybe it's because people have so 'high' regard for them that they say to themselves:" I'm not good enough for him/her. She/he deserves someone better". Like they somehow 'scare' people away with their spirituality??Well, here's what I have to say about that...If a person feels you are 'too' spiritual minded for them, they aren't for you.Why? The basic thing that both should have in common must be spirituality! IF they view you as 'too high' for them, guess what??They must be right and if you really think of it, you probably won't find them compatible after all. A really spiritually-minded person will look for someone alike.The kind of people you attract are a reflection of who you are.

Whatever the reason, lack of 'love' isn't really one of a true RP's problem. In fact, it's one of the last on the list.And if you equate being an RP to ending up w/o Love, you're making one of the biggest mistakes in your life! COZ pioneers are the happiest people I know:D

ChaNge

"Nothing is constant in this world except change". Ironically though, it takes time and a little thinking before you really see how much change has happened from when you last checked. I'm taking that time now and marking it in this post as the day I realized how much yesterday is different from today.(char)They say you should start with yourself and work yourself outwards, so I'll do that.

How much have I changed:

* I don't turn my head at every 'handsome' guy that passes by (yap, I used to!LOL)
* I can spend all my money on everything and everyone without getting anything for myself with no problem at all
* I can resist the urge to 'text'/ 'call' someone (whom I'm not supposed to be calling/texting) and leave my phone unattended
* I can survive a whole week without sleeping over at anyone's home ( ie.Staying at home for a whole week.AMAZING!!)
* I can do all the house chores everyday by myself without complaining
* I can make and stick to a schedule
* I can last a day without mentioning any guy (I like ...A MIRACLE!!:D )

How much 'others' have changed:

* People don't 'tease' me with every guy that comes along.
* People aren't as 'curious' as to my 'love life' as before
* My 'lil bro is having his first 'crush'..LOL
* My X-BS is now my constant preaching partner ( a very efficient one..)
* People I considered as rather 'immature' are on their way to maturity
* Friends I couldn't 'live without' are now left with 'hi' and 'hellos'

Is it that people change because you changed first? Or do you both change simultaneously?Wonder how I can find that out..Is change good?I guess so. I think we all grow up and that's something none of us can change. It's sometimes fun to think about how naive you used to be. (I can't help but smile when I read some of my past posts!!) CRAZY ME! Well, change is something that's here to stay so we all better get used to it, enjoy what we have now, laugh at our mistakes and look forward to change.Why?? Because though some things never change, some things may never be the same...^_^

Facebook

I don't know anyone (no wait I do, but only one) who doesn't have an FB account.You may think it's the 'in' thing for youth today but even mothers and grandmothers are getting into the FB world!It's a great idea-keeping everyone connected, getting in touch with lost friends and relatives, being updated on people's lives etc.You can post pictures, play games, chat, name it-FB has it. It's become like the ultimate 'all in one' application package. I must admit, it does start out as innocent fun but ask yourself-what site do you open first(gmail and Ymail not included)?What site stays on your browser come what may?What site do you log into when you get home(after work)?And what site is the last one you close when you finally decide to go Offline?Yep FB FB FB FB on all counts!So what?Well, its useful yes but I'm starting to think and have drawn the conclusion that whether we realize it or not, it's a very time consuming and distracting habit.Yes, it's fun, really fun but sometimes we have to learn to 'work first and play later'.Coming to think of it, why else would FB be blocked in many company's?There's a time for everything.

That brings me to my next 'case study' on the subject.I theorize that FB is actually addictive.This is one addiction that has no rehab and in my opinion will be one very hard to quit.How to diagnose yourself? Try not logging in to your FB account for a week.(I'm diagnosing myself right now) and if you can do it 'no sweat', fingers not itching to type 'facebook.com' on the browser,mind not filled with thoughts on what are the latest updates and who might have inboxed you, then CONGRATULATIONS!But if not?well, time for some self therapy I guess.Remember "too much of anything is bad".Anyway that being said, back to my Facebook abstinence.

Put it on Paper

I've never been the type who puts everything into writing, makes daily 'what to do's' or checklists- I used to find it a little corny and just not my thing.Anyway, I decided to try and guess what-it makes a difference.There simply is a big difference between thinking things up in your head and putting them into paper.Like if it's just in your mind, you can easily 'delete' and get on with life but once it's on paper, every unaccomplished thing is a failure, a solid proof of your mismanagement.Once you get things on paper start to realize just how much time you actually have on your hands (I ended up running out of things to do) and how to make the best use of it.You get to think of all the things that should be a daily habit but somehow you don't seem to find time to fit them in.Once you write them down and start doing your very best to follow through, you get a unique sense of satisfaction.Like your day wasn't a waste and you used every single minute wisely. Well here are some of the things I've been able to do with my new 'finding':

>read at leas one chapter of the Bible daily
>read the day's text
>get the house clean before 10:00am
>do laundry
>prepare for all the meetings
>do research

It's only been a couple of weeks and I know it'll be harder to stick to it as time goes by but you'll never know what you can do unless you try right?So this is me trying to stop my 'come what may', 'unplanned', 'spur of the moment' life and start being a little organized.You're only young once, so if you don't do all you can with your time,you might wake up one day finally planning to make the most of your time but finding yourself with back pains, failing vision, a weak heart and every thing old age brings and realize it's actually too late.^_^

Happy Ever After

It's a fact that probably every girl alive has some idea of their perfect wedding, ideal dress, romantic getaway etc.It's also a fact that many rush into marriage with this fantasy in mind.I think children s' fairy tales have a lot to do with this, every story ends with a 'and they lived happily ever after'-something that couldn't be further than the truth. It's about time people realized that you're not in some 'dreamworld' waiting for your Prince Charming to sweep you off your feet and take you to your palace.There's no such thing as a 'perfect' partner and marriage doesn't end in a 'happily ever after'.So just how are you supposed to know that you're all grown up and not living in a fairytale world?Is it age?Well, that definitely plays a part but there really is something more.I think there's no such thing as being totally prepared.Sometimes, you don't know what you're doing and end up in the middle of something you didn't bargain for.We all grow up and change our minds and goals multiple times a year but if you find yourself committed but somehow not so ready do you have the right to back out?I guess it depends on the reason.If love has nothing to do with it and you just want more time to enjoy single life, I guess that's not good enough.In fact, if your willing to sacrifice all those 'wants' and stick to your commitment, you actually are showing that you actually are ready for a lifetime commitment.Anyway, bottom line is.Think a million times before entering any relationship, if you find yourself into something and change your mind?Again think a million times.No marriage is full of bliss but you just might find yourself living a 'Nearly happy ever after' if you make the right decisions.

FYI-post was by request so absolutely no personal issues involved..heheh:D

Doubts

Nothing we decide to do will have a 100% success rate.We don't actually really know what the result of our decisions will be.Of course you evaluate, meditate,plan and do everything in your power to come up with a final decision but it's always a make or break.Some things you can't forsee and only realize once you're there.If you can change your mind and back out-great. But some things are more permanent.Weather you take the chances or not all depends on your motive and how strong your desire is to do it.If your motives are pure,unselfish and desire strong-nothing will stop you and you'll be ready to face anything.

Sometimes, you know what you have to do but don't do it.Maybe it's a fear of change, or uncertainty of the consequences or maybe simple procrastination that usually goes too far or perhaps you get too comfortable with your current lifestyle and situation that you forget to make the change.No matter how noble or right the decision may seem,you always have second thoughts-'what ifs' cloud your mind and peoples' reactions start to cause you to doubt the logic in your decision.What then?Deafen your ears and convince yourself over and over again that you're doing the right thing.

So am I having second thoughts?I wouldn't be writing this if I weren't:D Am I making the right decision?Definitely Yes.Am I sure of success?Not really.Do I have everything planned out?Nope.So what exactly am I thinking then if I have all these doubts?I'm making time for more important things, I'm keeping my promise, I'm 'testing' JH,I'm simplifying my life ,I'M DOING WHAT IS RIGHT..it's now or never *_*





Lyrics | Elliott Yamin Lyrics | Can%27t Keep On Loving You Lyrics

Love is

Everyone has there own definition, explaination about Love.I think we can find love all around us, you don't have to have any 'special' someone to realize how much love you have and can give in your life.You don't have to say or be told "I Love You" for you to feel loved.We should understand that love isn't really all about 'romance' and the opposite sex, it's simply caring and being cared for, thinking about others more than yourself, giving and taking,being there for people who need you and having a shoulder to cry on when your down.It can be shown not only by red roses and chocolates but even by handshakes, hugs and smiles.It's felt not only by having'goosebumps','sparkling' eyes or daydreams but even by the smile on your face right now or the next time you laugh or just by knowing you're not alone in the world and that anytime you want to talk, there are people you could call who would listen. Sometimes, you just have to stop and take a close look around you to realize how blessed and grateful you should be for all the love you have in your life.*_*